[anzac] WHY Do THEY LEAVE the CHURCHES??

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From: "REVIVAL List" <prophetic@...>
Date: Fri, 01 Oct 2010 09:59:33 +1200
WHY Are THEY LEAVING the CHURCHES??
-Andrew Strom.

Since we have been discussing the "Out-of-church" Christians,
I think it is very important for us all - including church leaders - to
look at the reasons why these people are leaving. Very often they
are NOT "church-hoppers" or backsliders. A lot of them are leaving
because they believe the CHURCH is backsliding!

So many people write to me from all over the world saying that
they have tried and tried - but they cannot find any fellowship in
their town that seems remotely biblical. They tell me they have
looked hard - but they are either cold, formal, or anti-charismatic
on one hand - or "hyper-charismaniac" or 'seeker-sensitive' on
the other. There hardly seems to be any balanced biblical approach
whichever way they turn. 

It is easy to pass glib remarks like "There is no perfect church"
but my heart truly goes out to these ones because the church
scene has been bad for awhile - and seemingly growing worse
and worse. So what are people to do?

Below are some accounts that people have sent me about why
they have left the churches. We would love your comments on
this too at our website (link at the end)-

From: Peggy (-USA): 
"My husband and I have been Christians for 30 years, home group 
leaders for much of that time; my husband has also been a worship 
leader for most of that time. However, now we are among the "out 
of church" that your message describes, although we do continue 
to meet and pray with other believers who feel the same longing 
for something more real than we have experienced for longer than 
we care to remember. The cry of our hearts is *not* to live on our 
memories of incredible intimacy with God in years past, but to 
discover Him anew and in deeper ways than ever before. We are 
desperate for Him. In light of that hunger, the emptiness of our 
church experience, a church we'd attended for 17 years, was 
more than we could bear." 

From: Randy (-USA): 
"I read an explanation of why the phenomenon is growing - the out-
of-church Christians. They say that we are lone rangers, backsliders, 
not team players, have bitter root judgements.... This can't be 
further from the truth. When we have been attending church, we 
find- No God - No Power- No Gospel- Bad Agendas- Poor Leader-
ship- Bad teaching- Bad programs- No Christ- No Healing- No 
miracles. Just a struggle for personal power and control. I can't tell 
you how many times I have been treated like I am not going to 
Heaven because I am not attending church. So, the sad part is, 
where do we take our gifts, our tithes, and our love - but out to the 
streets. We know many who have left the church, who are 
committed as prayer warriors, intercessors, missionaries, and 
worshippers. Wanting to share their gifts from God..." 

From: Dorie (Canada)-  
"I wanted to write to you because I am so frustrated and don't know 
what to do anymore... I grew up in a church denomination that was 
wacky-charismatic with little-to-no-discernment and a lot of control/
spiritual abuse.  About 10 years ago, the Lord gave me my first 
wake-up call, grabbing my attention and then 5-6 years ago, another 
big, final one... 

Now I haven't really been "a part of a Sunday-morning-church" for 
a long, long time.  I have "fellowship" with some Evangelical 
Christians here in Calgary, but just can't seem to be able to sit 
through the dry services that seem filled with flowery messages, 
as opaque as milk. (I want meat!!!)  The worship feels like it is 
being led by robots as do the people in the congregation. Or else, 
the charismatic churches (Vineyard, Pentecostal, non-
denominational) where they're not considered to be "dry" (so-to-
speak), are just plain wacky! My problem is: I miss really good 
worship music and intimate worship times with people who love 
to worship and aren't being forced-to, but the only handful of 
churches I know that have it, are wacky.  People (worship leaders/
intercessors) are acting like Stacey Campbell and I get turned off 
so much that I can't tolerate the rest of the service.  I feel so torn.  
I can't seem to find a church to "fit" in.

I've tried different denominations with no success.  The last 
evangelical "small group" I was in, ended breaking up because the 
small-group pastor was purposely hiding the fact that a christian 
couple who were co-leading with him, were living together and not 
married. (Once saved, no need for any more personal repentance, 
is what he preaches. Greasy-grace. Argh!)... The pastor also told 
other young christians in that group that "sex before marriage was 
fine"... 

I have tried so many places and I'm not being fussy or picky, it 
just seems really, really hard and weird here... I really want the 
fellowship. I can't seem to fit anywhere, and I am so frustrated that 
I could just cry. I long to be with like-minded people, sold-out, 
crazy-on-fire for Jesus, totally unashamed.  Christians here seem 
so focused on their careers, and houses, and cars, and vacations 
and I feel like a stinkin' hippie around them because I can't live for 
those things!!

What do you do when you want so desperately to be in a fellowship 
of believers that is growing strong in the Word, intimate and deep 
in worship, and not wacky?  I am so discouraged and have a hard 
time believing that it exists..."

-Please comment on this topic at the website below-

http://www.johnthebaptisttv.com/