[anzac] The P0RN EPIDEMIC - How To Break Free

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From: "REVIVAL List" <prophetic@...>
Date: Wed, 02 May 2012 23:36:24 +1200
-J. Lee Grady.

If you or someone you love is struggling with a porn addiction, take
these steps to freedom.

At a men´s conference I sponsored last weekend in Philadelphia,
some of my friends took the stage and got gut-level honest about
their temptations. I was so proud of their courage. Shay, a young
father from Ohio, admitted that he was exposed to hard-core
pornography when he was only five years old. He began modeling
what he saw in X-rated videos when he was just six.

Another guy from Pennsylvania told the men in the audience that
he began watching porn when he was a preteen-and this led him
to sex with dozens of girls in high school. Until recently this man
still battled the shame of his porn habit even though he was a lay
leader in his church.

"It´s not enough to whisper a quiet prayer under your breath. To
break free from a life-controlling habit as powerful as porn, you
must talk to someone else. And you should do it sooner, not later."

Jason, a youth pastor in northwestern Pennsylvania, preached to
the men on Friday night about how to reclaim purity in our sex-
saturated culture. Like so many of the guys in our conference,
Jason had been exposed to porn at a young age. His lust could
not be satisfied by masturbation or kinkier videos, so his addiction
drove him to seek out multiple girls for instant gratification. That´s
where porn leads.

Thankfully all these guys eventually found Christ and discovered
the grace to escape the porn trap. They are happily married today,
and they´ve been freed from the shame of past failures. But I meet
many Christian men who are not so fortunate. A huge percentage
of men in church have given up trying to resist temptation.

If you are one of those men (or women) who wears a fake smile
when you go to church, pretending to be an "overcomer" when you
really are a prisoner of lust, then please consider taking these
radical steps. (And if you know someone who is battling this
monster, please consider forwarding this message to him or her.)

1. Spill your guts. The first step toward repentance is honesty,
and it must be brutal. To repent means to turn 180 degrees, so
this decision cannot be half-hearted. It´s not enough to whisper a
quiet prayer under your breath. To break free from a life-controlling
habit as powerful as porn, you must talk to someone else. And
you should do it sooner, not later.

James 5:16 says, "Confess your sins to one another, and pray for
one another so that you may be healed" (NASB). I have prayed
with many guys about their porn addictions, and they have testified
that the power of their sin broke the moment they admitted it. Sit
down with someone (preferably a more mature Christian you know
and trust) and put all your cards on the table. If you humble yourself,
God will give you grace to change.

2. Get ruthless. Sin is deceitful. It loves to make up excuses such
as, "No one knows about your habit, so it´s not hurting anyone," "I
deserve this little treat" or "I can play with fire and not get burned."
Don´t believe the lies. Esau sold his birthright for a bowl of soup,
and many men today forfeit their relationship with God by
compromising with porn.

You can´t break free from sexual sin by slowly backing away from
it or taming it like a pet. The Bible tells us to "flee" from immorality
(2 Tim. 2:22). You must lay the axe to the root of your problem.
Cut off all access to porn. Say goodbye and slam the door in its
face. And if you can´t stop looking at it on your phone or computer,
get rid of your phone and computer.

3. Keep no secrets. Guys addicted to porn struggle with constant
shame. They can´t enjoy prayer or worship because they feel
condemned. They can´t share their faith with others because they
feel like hypocrites. And many Christian men are so full of guilt
they turn to alcohol or drugs to numb their pain.

It´s not enough to confess your sin to a brother once. You must
stay in relationship with people who love you enough to confront
you. Find one or two accountability partners and make a covenant
with them to live transparently. And don´t wait until you fall to call
for counsel. Contact them whenever you feel tempted. Send up
a flare and ask for help before it´s too late.

4. Refocus your life on others. Lust is ultimately about self-
gratification. When a young man gets hooked on porn, he can´t
grow up emotionally. This is why some adult men in their 50s and
60s act like 13-year-olds when it comes to sex. They are stuck
in perpetual puberty.

You will never break free from the bondage of sexual sin simply by
gritting your teeth and trying to forget the images you saw in
magazines or videos. You must totally redirect your energies toward
serving others: your spouse, your children, your church and the
needy people around you. Throw yourself into selfless ministry and
starve your illegal urges.

5. Stay filled with the Spirit. None of these previous steps are
possible without the Holy Spirit, who is our promised Helper (see
John 14:16). Self-help is not the answer. Ask the Spirit to fill your
life with His refining fire. He will go to the root of your unholy desires,
burn up your lust and give you supernatural ability to resist temptation.

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