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From: Forthright Magazine <forthrightmag@...>
Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2006 15:55:03 -0600
Forthright Magazine
Straight to the Cross


Strengthening the Hands of Your Husband
by Debra A. Reitz

Over the past three decades, we have seen our
culture turn into a society of self-help and
support groups for almost any problem, from
Alcoholics Anonymous to Weight-Watchers. These
groups provide the support individuals need to
harden themselves against the temptations of their
particular weakness. The goal is for them to get
enough strength to stand fast and overcome it.

Some of these groups use the buddy or sponsor
system for immediate strengthening during a
crisis. You can call them at any time, for any
reason, if temptation becomes more than you can
bear. Those who have found these methods to be not
only successful, but life-saving, will praise
these groups for their wonderful work and their
success. They are the walking success stories
which build up and strengthen the organization.
Working within these groups, abiding by their
rules and their admonishments, will strengthen
their ability to help you.

We all seem to grasp these concepts but fail to
apply them in the areas of the home and our
submission to our husbands. We can take this
principle of strengthening or supporting someone
and apply it to our home and our husband by
looking at a comparison provided for our learning
in  Ephesians 5:22-33 (KJV):

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,
as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of
the wife, even as Christ is the head of the
church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so
let the wives be to their own husbands in every
thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ
also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the
washing of water by the word, That he might
present it to himself a glorious church, not
having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but
that it should be holy and without blemish. So
ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man
ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and
cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we
are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his
bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father
and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and
they two shall be one flesh. This is a great
mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the
church. Nevertheless let every one of you in
particular so love his wife even as himself; and
the wife see that she reverence her husband."

In this admonishment from Paul to the church at
Ephesus, we see a parallel of the head of the
Church, Jesus Christ, with the husband or head of
the home. Many of us would have no problem
understanding the idea of supporting the authority
of the Lord over the body, yet still have problems
understanding the husband is in the very same
position in the home. We can see where we could
cause the body to be weak if we allowed sin to
reign in our midst. We can weaken or strengthen
the Lord's hands by our actions.

In the same way, in the home, husbands can be
strengthened or weakened by our actions. Our
understanding must be perfected regarding our role
under the authority placed upon them, their future
accounting to the Lord for the home, and our
submission and the devastating results of being

As wives, we can help our husbands to stand or to
fall before the hand of the Lord. We can
strengthen the hands of our husband through our
submission and teaching submission to the
children, or we can weaken his hands by being
rebellious, difficult, quarrelsome, and indignant
when we do not get our way, even circumventing his
authority to get what we want.

We can hold a weak husband up to the brightest
light of the Lord, and he will become strong, or
we can shadow the authority of a strong husband
and make him weak and languish in the dimness of

In giving our husband the due respect and
submission, and not circumventing his authority to
rule in the home, we can help him to stand with
dignity before the Lord and hear the admonishment
to both husband and wife, "well done, thou good
and faithful servants ... enter into the joys of
your Lord!"

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