Brian,
   I have painstakingly tried to use the reference "those who engage in 
homosexual behavior" as there really is no such thing as a homosexual 
and if there is they certainly are not gay.  I believe using 
'homosexual' gives credence to the false notion that this is a valid 
identity, that you are born that way and cannot change.  Homosexuality 
is what they do not what they are.  I love 1 Cor. 6:9-11.  Will pray 
that your father-in-law will come to appreciate this passage as well.

Peace,
Steve

Aberdeen Wesleyan Church wrote:
> Hey Gang!
>  
> Maybe it's because of the personal nature of the topic (my father-in-law 
> is gay), but I cringe everytime I hear Christians use the word "queer" 
> to describe homosexuals.
>  
> I'm very aware that they use it among themselves.  But I'm also of the 
> opinion that outside of that group it's an insult.  And I've never heard 
> a Christian use it positively when talking about homosexuals.  It's kind 
> of like (watch out, here it comes, and I want to warn my 
> African-American brothers out there) when we white people use "nigger."  
> It's widely used in the black community among themselves, but outside of 
> it, it's an insult.
>  
> Is it a real big deal?  Nope.  But I would never want a homosexual 
> to hear it from my lips - I would most likely lose any chance to win him 
> for Christ, and that's much more important than "speaking my mind" with 
> a given term.
>  
> So I'm asking, for my sake, to please use "homosexual," "gay," or 
> whatever rather than "queer."
>  
> Thank you for your understanding, my brothers!
>  
> Brian
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