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From: john okeefe <jxpxus@...>
Date: Sat, 31 Jan 2004 20:19:30 -0800 (PST)
pastor h,

hey, i found another goup that thinks just like this -
they are called islam :)

pax
jok

--- Pastor Hughes <embc@...> wrote:
> this is by a pastors wife.....in reference to
> biblical dress.....take a deep breath...then read..
> 
> 
> . No doubt your pastor has preached about the
> biblical principles for proper, modest dressing and
> if you are saved, you quite naturally agree with
> him. I John 5:3 "For this is the love of God, that
> we keep His cornmandments: and his commandments are
> not grievous." Psalm 119:165 "Great peace have they
> which love thy law and nothing shall offend them."
> We understand that, while we do live in this world,
> God wants His people to stand out and be different
> and not to use our own standard to determine our
> dress, but to use God's standard. For example, once
> we are saved, it doesn't take us long to understand
> that God considers it an abomination for a woman to
> dress like a man. (Deuteronomy 22:5) Early in our
> Christian lives then, we put away our pants and all
> of our excuses for wearing them (i.e. it's cold, I'm
> going horseback riding, I just wear them around the
> house, etc.) After all, who wants to dress like an
> abomination in God's sight? So, we replaced our
> Levi's with dresses, skirts, and culottes. We also
> understand that in order to be modest in God's eyes,
> our dresses, skirts, and culottes need to fall below
> our knees--for any part exposed above the knee is
> considered nakedness in the eyes of God. (Isaiah
> 47:2,3 "...make bare the leg, uncover the thigh,
> ...Thy nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame
> shall be seen:" Webster's dictionary defines the
> thigh as being the portion of the leg between the
> hip and the knee. Another verse that defines
> nakedness as an exposed thigh is Exodus 28:42.)
> I'm sure it is of utmost importance to those of you
> who are reading this article to know that your dress
> is well-pleasing to the Lord. So just to be
> absolutely sure we are obedient in all areas of
> dress, let us review and examine our philosophy of
> dress to make sure we can align ourselves with the
> Word of God.
> 
> I have observed among independent Baptist women a
> certain naivete of sorts when it comes to wearing
> dresses-- An unspoken philosophy which seems to say,
> "As long as I'm wearing a dress, I must be
> scriptural." Yet, there are many types and styles of
> dresses that are every bit as immodest and revealing
> as a pair of tight Levi's would be! I purposely
> chose the title of this article from Proverbs 31
> because of the word covering. A covering means to
> clothe or enwrap. The virtuous woman covered
> herself. (And from the text we see that she covered
> herself beautifully: tapestry, silk, and purple!) We
> see how in the Bible God designed clothes three
> times and all three times He designed coverings. In
> the Garden of Eden God made coats for Adam and Eve
> to wear. A coat is not a sleek, tight,
> body-revealing sort of apparel, is it? It does not
> accentuate any part of the body nor draw attention
> to any one place. When you wear a coat, you are
> simply covered. The next time the Lord designed
> clothes was for the high priest's attire. They wore
> long robes with linen britches underneath the robe.
> A robe is not an "attention grabbing" article of
> clothing, is it? I mean, if you and your husband
> were going out of town on a romantic little getaway,
> what would his response be if you cuddled up next to
> him and whispered, "Honey, I want you to know that
> I'll be bringing my floor-length, long-sleeved,
> fuzzy, pink robe on this trip!" (Well, in the first
> place, he may have already fainted because you
> actually cuddled up to him... but that's another
> article!) If you were really trying to get his
> attention, I think you could leave the robe home. A
> robe, like a coat, was not designed to bring
> attention to anything on the body, but rather it is
> used for a covering. Also in the book of Revelation,
> we read of God's design for our heavenly attire:
> white robes. Every time the Lord God designed
> clothes, it was for the purpose of clothing the body
> in a decent and modest way.
> 
> Here I have composed several questions for you to
> ask yourself concerning the way you dress:
> 
> 1. Are you attracted to the world's latest styles
> and do you try to dress accordingly?
> 2. Do you dress to show off, or draw attention to,
> certain part of your figure? (i.e.. small waist,
> long legs, etc.)
> 3. Do you usually wear form-fitting clothes?
> 4. Are your culottes nothing more than "long shorts"
> or "short pants"?
> 5. Do your skirts come exactly to your knee and do
> those skirts have slits in them?
> 6. Do you get as close to the world's way of
> dressing as you can possibly get away with?
> 7. On the other hand, do you purposely dress dowdy
> and frumpy to appear more "holy" than those around
> you? (i.e.. Amish style-- plain, head coverings like
> you just popped out of a thrift shop window.)
> 8. Do you wear things that may be "see through" and
> excuse it with the fact that you're wearing a slip
> (so if anyone sees anything, they'll "just see my
> slip.")
> 
> 
> ** A note to mothers of daughters **
> 
> 1. Do you allow your daughter to wear form-fitting,
> figure-flattering clothes just because she may look
> "cute" or have a "good figure"?
> 2. Are you mindful to teach your daughter how to
> dress modestly, and do you check her wardrobe
> regularly to be sure she is doing so? (This is your
> responsibility, Mom.)
> 3. Do you allow your daughter to indulge in worldly
> attire simply because she is young and it is "in
> style"?
> 
> If you answered "yes" to any of these questions,
> then you have set up your own dress standards and
> you need to question your own motives for doing so.
> 
> Now I want to mention a word that is not often used
> in discussing our wardrobes, and that is the word
> balance. I personally believe that we as modern day
> Christian women must have Holy Spirit leadership in
> our lives, and must exercise good discretion and
> balance in choosing what we will wear. This is not
> to say that we need to find a happy medium between
> the world's standards and God's standards. Nothing
> could be farther from the truth. However, we are
> three years away from the 21st century. We do not
> use horse and buggies to come to church, nor do I do
> my laundry down at the Sayville beach. My girls and
> I do not wear bonnets and prairie dresses like "Ma"
> on "Little House" and my husband does not dress like
> Moses or Joshua did. Why? Because those things no
> longer pertain to our culture. So where does balance
> apply? God never says that it is a sin for the leg
> below the knee to show. So I can wear skirts and
> dresses below my knees and yet they do not have to
> be to the ground. I do not want to be poured into
> them in such a way that I can no longer breathe once
> the skirt is on, and I would still like to be able
> to move and sit down in what I wear! So I will avoid
> tight, form-fitting, worldly clothes, but I will
> choose clothes that look sharp, fit well, and cover
> me. There's nothing wrong with looking clean and
> pretty and sharp! We should stand out as pleasingly
> different, not ostentatious or weird.
> 
> Here are some basic rules that we need to measure
> our dress standards by:
> 
> 1. Never try to "Christianize" the world's dress and
> make it your own. (Some ladies who live in jean
> skirts, for example, wear them every bit as tight as
> they used to wear their jeans! The idea behind
> wearing dresses and skirts was to make certain parts
> of your body literally INVISIBLE!)
> 
> 2. Open, low necklines, sleeveless tops and dresses,
> short and slit skirts and dresses, tight, slinky,
> form-fitting attire and pants or shorts, have no
> place in a Christian woman's wardrobe. (You might
> say, "Sleeveless?! Oh, come on!" Ever notice what
> advertisers say about "bare" shoulders? Words like
> sexy, soft, and alluring are always right there.)
> 
> 3. Culottes were invented in order to give a lady
> the freedom to move around-- i.e.. gardening,
> cleaning, bike riding, etc.-- and yet still look
> like she has a skirt on. If you want to wear
> culottes, make sure they look like a skirtfront and
> back.
> 
> 
> ** A Word to Brides-to-be **
> 
> I am utterly amazed and shocked when I attend
> Christian weddings because of some of the bride's
> gowns I have seen. Here we have this wonderful,
> sweet, little Christian girl, who has dressed
> modestly and properly as long as she's been in the
> church. What happens on her wedding day? To quote a
> familiar passage- "June is bustin' put all over!"
> Please keep your standards as high as ever on this
> wonderful day! There have been brides I've been
> embarrassed to look in the eye because of her
> immodest apparel.
> 
> In all areas of our lives, we should try to live
> godly. Let us especially be circumspect in our
> attire. The virtuous woman has the utmost respect
> for God and His Word. So the virtuous woman covers
> herself. And her husband praises her.      by Liz
> Graff
> 
> Pastor Hughes
> East Mesa Baptist Church
> http://www.azboss.net/~embc/
>   ----- Original Message ----- 
>   From: DAVID POWELL 
>   To: pastorsforum@... 
>   Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2004 8:16 PM
>   Subject: Re: [PastorsForum] why your church....
> 
> 
>   Fidel, do you wear a black suit and tie in the
> winter and a white suit and tie in the summer?  Why
> not?  That is what all the God fearing Baptist
> pastors did back in the early 1900's.  Dress is
> cultural.  As long as it is not dirty or provocative
> or suggestive the Bible does not say how to dress. 
> Our congregation is a casual laid back church and no
> one, and I mean no one, wears a suit and tie.  When
> it is 120 degrees in the summer most of us wear
> walking shorts to Wednesday services!
>   I have preached in many, many other countries and
> each one has its own cultural dress.  In Suid
> Afrika, they dress different than they did in
> England, than they did in Russia, than they did in
> Mexico.... etc. etc.
>    
>   God is not in the clothes fashion business.  The
> only thing you can say about clothes and church,
> other than not being vulgar in their dress,  is
> culturally determined.  In New England, they wear
> suits and ties in Alvord, Texas they wear jeans,
> boots and Stetson hats.  In Mississippi they wear
> suits and ties in the winter and shirts and ties in
> the summer.  In Mission Viejo, California they wear
> shorts in the summer and shorts in the winter.  At
> least for those churches close to the beach 
>    
>   We have a very strict dress code in our church. 
> We only have one rule!  You must wear clothes!
>    
>   God Bless
>   Pastor Powell
>    
>   Shalom Alechem...Barukh Hashem Y'shua! 
>   (Peace and Blessings in Jesus' name!)
>     ----- Original Message ----- 
>     From: FIdel Hughes 
>     To: pastorsforum@... 
>     Sent: Friday, January 30, 2004 8:35 PM
>     Subject: Re: [PastorsForum] why your church....
> 
> 
>     Brian 
> 
>     you hit on something big here.....
> 
>     you said there is scriptural guidelines for
> dress and talk......
>     and people will stand out....
> 
>     yes .....either positively or negatively.....
> 
>     the next biggie you hit on was when you said
> human nature is self centered 
>     not God centered......
> 
>     that is why people want to dress and talk the
> way they want to 
>     and not the way God wants them to....
> 
>     because they are self centered.....
> 
>     not God centered.....
> 
>     thanks for bringing that up
> 
>     very interesting .......
>     see
>     there is good stuff in these posts.....
>     you 
>     just have to read them 
>     carefully 
> 
>     thanks again
>     pastor h.
>       ----- Original Message ----- 
>       From: Aberdeen Wesleyan Church 
>       To: pastorsforum@... 
>       Sent: Friday, January 30, 2004 4:55 PM
>       Subject: RE: [PastorsForum] why your
> church....
> 
> 
>             David,
> 
>             I think I understand your point, but
> then we need to ask: who sets the standard? 
> Civilized according to whom?  The educational
> system?
> 
>             I think that if anyone from the
> Elizabethan age, or even among church circles in the
> early 1900's came to many of our churches today
> (even the traditional ones), they would be appalled
> at the use of language today, and would see it as
> being "dumbed down."
> 
>             Our British brothers, I'm sure must lose
> sleep at how we have butchered the English language.
> 
>             I think I see your point, and I must
> admit my own struggle with this.  How "far" do we
> go?
> 
>             But I am convinced of something that I
> absolutely cannot shake: Jesus made Himself relevant
> to mankind.  He didn't have to do that.  He could
> have stayed in glory, never coming to earth, in
> which case we would not have been redeemed, and we
> would pay the just penalty of our sins.
> 
>             He "dressed down" for us - there is no
> way we could look upon His glory if He had not.  He
> did not wear clerical garb, or even the Israelite
> version of a suit, and there is not indication that
> He required His followers to do the same.  In fact,
> He got after the Pharisees for making their tassles
> long, and the phylacteries big, because they were
> showing off with their dress.
> 
>             He spoke the common language of the
> people, not a heavenly language.  He could have
> chosen to speak whatever language Adam and Eve
> spoke, and expected everyone else to "get it,"
> because it would have been pure (at least before the
> fall).
> 
>             What made Him different?  Aside from the
> fact that He was the Son of God, what set Him apart
> was His total devotion to the mission God had given
> Him.  His love for the Father was total.  In the
> society in which He lived, as well as ours, anyone
> who lives a life totally committed to the mission of
> the Father will stand out, no matter how they dress
> or talk (aside from clear Scriptural guidelines),
> because human nature continues to be self-centered,
> rather than God-centered.
> 
>             Brian
> 
>             -------Original Message-------
> 
>             From: pastorsforum@...
>             Date: 01/30/04 17:42:14
>             To: pastorsforum@...
>             Subject: RE: [PastorsForum] why your
> church....
> 
>             Let's bring them up to a civilized level
> and not be "dumbed" down to theirs.
>             There is a proper way to speak.  Let's
> teach, train, lift up and not stoop.
>             David W
> 
>             -----Original Message-----
>             From: john okeefe
> [mailto:jxpxus@...]
>             Sent: Friday, January 30, 2004 3:46 PM
>             To: pastorsforum@...
>             Subject: RE: [PastorsForum] why your
> church....
> 
> 
>             david -
> 
>             if i looked at you and said "dude, bogus
> wake - spank
>             down 'n powder."  you might not know
> what i mean :)
> 
>             but if i said to you - "david, i believe
> you came to
>             the wrong conclusion and i was hoping
> you would be
>             more reasonable about it" - that you
> would understand
>             - but they mean the same things :)
> 
>             words are 100$ cultural.  here are just
> a few examples
>             (and i am certian others can think of
> more):
> 
>             bloody
>             dog
>             chick
>             wag
>             slide
>             spank
> 
>             most of these words you would have no
> problem using in
>             a your daily speaking - if you said,
> "that guy was all
>             bloody" it would have a whole different
> meaning
>             depending on who you were talking too :)
> 
>             what you see as a "cuss" word may not be
> so in my
>             community - the word "sucks" is a great
> example of
>             that - it is not "as bad" as your
> community things, in
>             my community - since the article wqs
> designed for
>             people in my community - no problem. 
> but i will say,
>             i actually had a very conserative church
> in texas use
>             the article (they did ask if they could
> change the
>             word) for there state wide conference.
> 
>             i think, when it comes to words, we need
> to speak to
>             the people we are trying to reach - it
> is undertanding
>             them and meeting them where they are and
> not where you
>             want them to be :)
> 
>             pax
>             jok
> 
>            
>                    
>            
>      
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